I am raising four boys, so I knew that I could benefit from Knights in Training: Ten Principles for Raising Honorable, Courageous, and Compassionate Boys. Especially since I long for old-fashioned and Biblically sound techniques for training our children.
I wasn’t sure what to expect as I opened the pages of Heather Haupt’s book. I was definitely excited about utilizing the “code of chivalry”, but curious to see how she thought we could apply the antique training of knights to our modern families.
Knights In Training Review
As I read through the first part of the book which outlines the sad direction our society is heading and how reverting back to days of old can help our boys, I was nodding my head in agreement and feeling anxious to get on to the “solutions” part of the book. I was convicted of the why training our boys to be (real) men is so important — challenge accepted!
By chapter four, we were getting into the meaty stuff – how to lay the foundation and desire for chivalry. Followed by the fun stuff – physical training (aka sword fights and jousting).
I really appreciated the “rules of engagement section” because I struggle with letting my boys be rough and often resort to forbidding pretend fights out of frustration. However, the ideas and guidelines presented were spot on and I discussed them with my boys right away.
Another thing I was excited about was the ‘page and squire’ work that brings my boys’ household chores into perspective and gave me a better way to explain to them the importance of them. I can’t say my boys were thrilled, but they understood the logic.
Chapter six starts discussing ‘the code’. We have the poster with all 10 codes tacked up where we can easily review it every day. Each code gets its own chapter with a full explanation of what it means, why it matters, and ways to implement the code.
The first code (Love the Lord Your God with Your Heart, Soul, Mind, and Strength) is really the basis of every following code. The depth is deep and the value is high in this book! Expect to read this book with a notebook and pencil near so you can jot down your favorite quotes or your own ideas that are born from it.
This is not a quick read. Well, you could read through it within a few dedicated days, but the message is too important & meaningful to not savor and absorb slowly. I recommend reading straight through once to get the flavor for the quest and then refer back to it in parts as you apply it to your life.
I think the 10 codes in this book are best implemented with your boys as soon as possible. I can see how some things will seem awkward for me to teach or silly for my oldest (12) to participate in. However, lots of things will still resonate with him and *all of the things* are still important for him to learn. It will be harder for him to be trained in new habits than his younger brothers (though, we have tried to raise honorable, courageous, and compassionate boys from the start).
We have really been stressing the importance of self-control to him as we enter into the teen years and I like the tips found in this book on this topic. I most appreciated the code and chapter on respecting women which also addresses the epidemic of pornography addiction. The tips & action plan were so helpful.
This book is full of thought-provoking and much-needed words for parents. I hope and pray that our generation of parents will accept the challenge of raising true men and women of the Lord.
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