Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30
Have you thought about what kind of internet legacy you’ll leave behind? I’ve recently been reminded of how important our actions are: in real life, and just as importantly, on the web.
Though we are a visual culture with photos catching the eye more than words, what we are on the outside is not what others will remember about us after we die when they think of how we impacted them. At least, not the only thing they’ll remember. And, chances are, if our appearance is mentioned, it will likely be in reference to our smile or the life in our eyes. Last I checked, a smile is an action and the eyes are a window to our soul (ie: “who we are on the inside”).
Leaving Behind An Internet Legacy As Christian Women
Being mindful of what we share on the internet is an important part of our actions and legacy. What goes on the internet will always be on the internet, even if you hit the delete button.
A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children’s children… Proverbs 13:22
As a blogger, I put more words and content on the web than the average person. I want to be intentional about those words and content. Especially with the delicate subjects of my personal life, my marriage, my family, and my faith. But, this should be true for anyone posting and sharing anything online.
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:10-12
I know it can be easy to say and share things online that we might not otherwise dare/want to share in person — I’m guilty of doing it. But, I do not want to be remembered as the woman who complained about her life; her husband, her kids, her financial state, the weather, her health, her body, or the taste of her coffee for that matter! I don’t want to be a grumbler who is always pointing out the bad things about my day, others around me, or life in general.
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. Proverbs 21:19
I want to weigh what I share on the internet against some guidelines. Guidelines that reflect “a woman that fears the Lord” in all areas of her life.
Before You Hit Publish, Ask Yourself Some Questions
I think one very good place to start is with Philippians 4:8.
Is what you’re sharing:
OF GOOD REPORT
More questions to ask:
Will it bring glory to God?
Will it harm anyone?
Is it actually important in the grand scope of life?
Are you reacting in emotion rather than responding with thoughtfulness?
Are you reflecting JESUS and the fruits of the spirit?
Dear friends, our words matter.
Either make the tree good, and his fruit good; or else make the tree corrupt, and his fruit corrupt: for the tree is known by his fruit. O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things. But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned. Matthew 12: 33-37
This blog post is dedicated to Mandy and what I learned from her life full of worship for our Lord Jesus Christ.
My memories of Mandy are from my perspective of being in the same blogging circles over the last few years, writing for the same blogs and working together in that aspect, chatting with her and asking her questions about being a virtual assistant, reading her blog, watching her videoes, and (my favorite) following her on Periscope & Instagram where she shared behind the scenes videos and photos of their life.
I remember specifically when she shared about her and Lizzie mixing up meatloaf together in the kitchen… Lizzie captured my heart with her southern accent and beautiful grin that went into her eyes! Maybe it is because I have a daughter who will be 9 this year with the same ambitions and love for her mama… but Lizzie just had my heart!
I love Mandy’s LOVE and devotion to her husband and kids and she always expressed how thankful she was for them — God gave her the husband & kids she’d always prayed for — all at once!
I never knew her in person, so you may think it would be hard to know whether she was sincere in her faith and desire to share about Jesus… however, just from all of the time & effort Mandy put into worshipping the Lord online, I know she was a dedicated Christian. Because, I know it takes a lot of hard (in real life, behind the blog) work to put so much content on the web.
And, she always did it all for Jesus… with a beautiful smile on her face and sincerity in her voice that just can’t be pretended. So, even if I didn’t have the testimony of several others who DID know Mandy “in real life”, I believe she was sincere in her ministry. She is a voice and face that will be missed in the online community!
**In memory of Mandy Kelly from Worshipful Living who we lost in a tragic house fire on March 21, 2017. Her husband and two youngest children also died.
Two older children and their grandmother survived and I request that you please keep them in your prayers and consider donating to them through their church here – specify Kelly Fund. In addition to losing their parents and siblings, they lost everything else in the fire.